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Funeral Director First Responder: 'You're Stronger Than You Feel'

May 1, 2020
Originally published on May 1, 2020 7:10 am

As the coronavirus pandemic hit the U.S., Dan Flynn made his way from Santa Barbara, Calif., to New York City, joining 58 others as part of a national mortuary response team.

Flynn, a funeral director, has been with the team since 2008. The group helps identify victims and assist with mortuary services to help loved ones find closure. While in New York last month, Flynn assisted with autopsies and photographed, fingerprinted and catalogued bodies.

He spoke with his daughter, Shannon Doty, about the roughly three weeks he spent in New York. Doty, 32, asked Flynn, 60, whether he was scared when he was called to go there.

"Any responder will tell you that it's part of our makeup that when everybody is running away from the danger, we run towards it," Flynn said. "It's just part of the fiber of my being, I guess, to go to where there is this kind of a need."

When Doty found out her dad was going to one of the coronavirus hot spots, she said she was terrified. She knew the risky lengths he would go to help others and was worried about his own safety.

"Knowing your personality made that 10 times worse because I knew if somebody dropped on the street having symptoms, you would be the first person to pick them up and run them to the hospital despite the fact that you could catch COVID also," she said.

"But I was also proud because you are that person."

When Flynn arrived in the city, he said New Yorkers welcomed him and his fellow responders with gratitude.

"On our first day, people pulled their cars over and got out of their cars and they started applauding," he said. "People on bicycles and people on the sidewalk would shout, 'Thank you!' "

He remembers a disabled veteran stood up out of his wheelchair and saluted as they walked by. "It was incredibly moving, and that sight will never leave me," he said.

Doty said her dad's commitment to helping people inspired her to pursue her goal of working with patients who have brain tumors. She works as a medical assistant in the neurology department at Washington University's School of Medicine in St, Louis, Mo.

She also inherited her dad's dedication to doing the right thing.

"I would rather run into the fire with my cancer patients instead of just taking the easy way. And that is your doing because you always were there to tell me, 'Don't do it the easy way, do it the right way.' "

"I think of you as this warrior and living up to your middle name Valory — for valor," he told her. "I hope you remember that you are smarter than you think, and you're stronger than you feel."

"I'm very proud to be your daughter," Doty said.

"I will always love you darling," Flynn said.

Audio produced for Morning Edition by Mitra Bonshahi.

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RACHEL MARTIN, HOST:

Time now for StoryCorps. Today, a first responder you don't often hear about - Dan Flynn is a funeral director in Santa Barbara, Calif. When the pandemic hit, he made his way to New York City to be part of the national mortuary response team. He recorded a remote conversation with his daughter, Shannon, using StoryCorps Connect.

SHANNON DOTY: When you got called to New York, were you scared?

DAN FLYNN: Any responder will tell you that it's part of our makeup that when everybody is running away from the danger, we run towards it. It's just part of the fiber of my being, I guess, to go to where there's this kind of a need.

DOTY: All you ever see is the stuff on the news. And you calling me up and telling me you're going to New York, I was terrified. Knowing your personality made that 10 times worse because I knew if somebody dropped on the street having symptoms, you would be the first person to pick them up and run them to the hospital despite the fact that you can catch COVID also. But I was also proud because you are that person. How did New Yorkers respond to you guys being there?

FLYNN: On our first day, people pulled their cars over and got out of their cars and they started applauding. People on bicycles and people on the sidewalk would shout thank you. And as long as I live, I'll never forget this sight. As we were walking right in the middle of an intersection, a disabled veteran stood up out of his wheelchair, and he saluted as we walked by. It was incredibly moving. And that sight will never leave me.

DOTY: It's your attitude toward helping people that made me want to work with patients with brain tumors. And I would rather run into the fire with my cancer patients instead of just taking the easy way. And that is your doing because you always were there to tell me don't do it the easy way. Do it the right way.

FLYNN: I think of you as this warrior and living up to your middle name Valerie for valor. I hope you remember that you are smarter than you think, and you're stronger than you feel.

DOTY: I'm very proud to be your daughter.

FLYNN: I will always love you, darling.

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MARTIN: That was Dan Flynn talking to his daughter, Shannon Doty. They recorded their conversation with StoryCorps Connect, a new platform which makes it possible to interview a loved one remotely and then upload it to the StoryCorps archive at the Library of Congress. To find out how to record your own StoryCorps Connect interview, go to npr.org.

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